DESPAIR

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DESPAIR

I feel the need to write about Despair. Despair is a state of mind in which we can fall into without really even noticing that that is where we are going. If we knew, we wouldn't go.

Despair is that deep and dark place that will consume ALL of your thoughts. Despair will blanket the brightest sunshine, making time seem to be an everlasting darkness. Despair will fill your body with the chills of a constant Nor'easter, not even to be warmed by a raging fire. Despair will mask your eyes from the rest of the world, leaving you seemingly ALL ALONE. Despair holds your head down, so that you may not see the sky, or see a quick smile from a passerby who recognizes the posture. Despair turns the loveliest flower into a dried up stick. Despair cloaks you within it's folds, shielding you from love. Despair drenches your creativity with the weight of a raging sea. Despair makes you question everything about yourself, leaving you battered and full of doubt. Despair will crush your self-esteem, molding you into a shy, frightened shell of a person. Despair is a thief in the night, stealing from you precious, precious time.

My dear friend, I would take despair from you if only I could. You see, I have lived in despair too. At times, I thought it would never leave. At times I thought I was being punished. At times I thought I had only been fooling myself all along when I was capable of maintaining a particular job, relationship, or status. At times I thought I wasn't worthy of life.

How do we arrive there? I think we go slowly, unknowingly, blindly, until we are caught in it's clinches. And then it will be some time before we are able to recognize that we have arrived. And only after that moment can we begin our journey back out into the light.

What causes despair? I cannot say. For each of us it is different. Despair can be caused by the lack of love or warmth. It can be caused by the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, an addiction, a disease, or the loss of employment. I cannot tell you when it will strike next. I can only tell you how to recognize it.

How can I free myself from despair? I can only offer suggestions, you must find your way out alone. You see, despair is personalized to each individual, however First you must RECOGNIZE it, then you must NAME it. Only then can you find release. Once you have named it, you'll be on your way back home.

Remember this, despair is a state of mind. Make a conscious choice to be free from it. Run, bike, fish, spend time in nature, meditate, contemplate, pray, and for a time, be quiet. Listen to the voice of reason that resonates in your head. That voice will tell you what to do. You will only hear the voice once you have settled down the activity in your mind. Smile, sing, dance. Try to find even one single thing to laugh about. I can see you in the distance. Soon you will be knocking upon my door .

Once you are on the outside again you can reclaim your life. You will have more information than you did going in. A new sense of empowerment, ability and confidence will abound you. As well you should, for despair can bring the strongest to their knees. Celebrate your return. Go into the sun and blow a kiss into the wind. Smile at everyone you see, lest you overlook some weary soul caught in the grips of their own despair. Give of yourself, for now you can help to bring others back into the light. Celebrate your lesson. Give thanks to your higher One. And remember, your friends and loved ones missed you while you were gone. Give them a hug and kiss, for they yearned for your happiness.

And lastly, keep a small memory or diary of how you felt, lest you see it coming around again. As I said before, If we knew despair was our destination, we wouldn't go. For despair is like a thief in the night, stealing from you precious, precious, time. I wish you peace my friend and freedom from despair forever.

They told me it was Leap year and asked me had I lept

only I thought they said it was weep year

and I replied "Yes, I wept"

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